30 Day Mom Challenge to be a happy mom

30 day mom challenge to be a happy mom will inspire you to love yourself and be more happy to pour more love to your kids. Motherhood is a job that starts as soon as we open our eyes and it goes on till we close our eyes at night. If you feel exhausted or defeated, then I will say you are not alone. I am sure all mommies are sailing on the same boat. Every day is not same, some days we are pissed off and think ourselves as not perfect for our kids. A mom should never feel guilty.

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30 day mom challenge

A mother struggles each day and motherhood is the hardest journey, but I feel it is the most rewarding too. A mom learns each day to be a better mom. Here are the best 30 tips to be a better and happier mom. Start following this 30 day challenge not to be a perfect but to develop a more healthy and happier relationship to your kids and with yourself too. On the first day, focus on the first challenge and with each following day focus the next challenges.

1) Before shouting, take a deep breath

I know at some moment when you loose our calm and you shout at your kids and the little ones couldn’t figure out why their parents are yelling. And few moments later we feel sad about our own behavior. Don’t feel helpless, whenever you feel you are loosing your calm start taking deep breathe. Just start do backward counting from 10 and deep breathe on each count. I am sure at one you will feel much better and cool. This is just a matter of few moments that we need to control.

2) Have a good start in the morning

Morning shows the day, a good start in the morning will surely set the mood of the entire day for you and your kids. When your child wakes up in the morning, greet them with a big morning smile and a hug. And then start your and your kids’ morning in a productive way. Before starting in the morning to make sure they get their enough sleep otherwise they will be not in their full energy.

3) Be thankful to your kids

Always be thankful to them, if you show them to embrace gratitude they will learn this lesson of life too. By this they will learn gratitude and value of feelings of other people too. We should help them understand that thankfulness should not be only for materialistic things, we should be thankful for every act of kindness of others. The more kids learn the life lessons as a mom you will be happier.

4) Give them some responsibility

We should practice giving some responsibilities to kids, this will help them learn time-management and make them disciplined. They will grow as a responsible individual. And as they learn to meet their responsibilities, they will be more happy than us. It will give them a feel of accomplishment.

5) Less use of “No” or replace it with nice way

I know this is a tough challenge to a mom because kids have never-ending demands and it is quiet obvious we can’t say yes to everything. That’s why you need to use sweet and nicer phrases instead of no. Also, it will be good if it is possible to explain the reason behind saying anything no, though it is not feasible sometimes. To be a better parent, you must know to reconstruct your phrase in a positive way. This is one of the vital among the 30 day mom challenge to be a happy mom, as it will lead to tantrum free and a peaceful conversation.

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6) Motivate them to use technology less

You can’t deny the fact that we can’t live without technology. And the excessive use of it by adults fascinates young kids to use technology and this results in many harsh ways. It is the responsibility of a parent to teach them how to use technology in a healthy way and limit the time of using technology for the kids. You should learn to unplug yourself in better way so that it will set an example for them.

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7) Spend more time with them

The most valuable thing to spend for our kids is our time. Spend as much time as possible with your kids. They feel more positive and it helps them to be emotionally strong. It has been seen that children who spend more time with their families are less attracted to bad behaviors. Spending family time is fun and can enjoy each other’s company.

8) Listen to their talks

I know kids talk a lot and they have so many things to tell. And sometimes in this busy world there is short of time to listen to them. But please listen to kids. When you listen to your kids, they feel themselves as important. Be patient and listen to your kids when they share their thoughts and feelings. When we had an active conversation with our kids, we also get to know about their thoughts. A healthy conversation will bond a parent and child more close, in future they will be happy to share and discuss their problems and opinions.

9)Ask for their suggestion

Never forget that kids are as much matured as adults, they too have suggestions and opinions for every issue discussed in family. Maybe every time it is not possible to accept their suggestion but we should always ask for their suggestion, what they want or think. It is very essential to ask for their suggestion if we are taking any decision for them. We need to know whether or not they are interested and whatever they have in their mind.

10) Maintain a routine

Be consistent, always follow a routine. A routine life will help kids and parents to have a stable life and it will reduce both mom and kid’s stress level too. And they will have a habit of doing all the daily task regularly in a fixed time but yes don’t make it too hard for them. Give them a break from routine once in a week.

11) Apologize to them if required

We all make mistakes and we need to teach our kids that we should accept our mistake and apologize for it and should never repeat. So if any time you realize that the shouting on your kids was not justified, it was not their mistake, don’t forget to say sorry for them. This will teach them that we should apologize if we had done something wrong.

12) keep sometime for only yourself

You must fill your cup first then only you can pour it to other. So make sure to do something for yourself, do what you love. This act of self care will make you happy and then only you can share happiness and love to your family. So don’t forget to love yourself.

13) Teach them age appropriate chores

There are a lot of benefits of introducing chores in a child’s life as early as possible. There should be age appropriate chores in a child’s daily routine. Engaging a child in daily chores aid to their self-esteem and responsibility as an individual.

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14) Teach them to expect less

Sometime we ourselves are the reason behind our sorrow as we expect too much. So it is very important to teach children that they should have least expectation in life. We need to make them understand the more they expect, the more disappointment they will get. The secret to a happy life is to have least expectation.

15) Strictly no to bribing

Bribing is not at all a good idea to make the tasks done by kids. Occasionally you can give rewards to them that too, not pricey. As the habit of bribing will demotivate your child. Kids will get more attracted toward the bribe than the task itself. They need to realize their responsibility and should learn to complete their jobs without getting anything in return.

16) Appreciate them for their efforts

Appreciate your child for every little effort they make. These appreciations mean a lot to them, it boost their self-esteem and motivate them to do more and more. This will develop a sense of doing right from wrong.

17) Avoid giving too many gifts

Every parent wants to give whatever they have to their kids, but excess of anything is not good. Too many materialistic gifts will spoil your kid. They will not feel the real happiness of getting gifts. Very often, if they receive gifts, they will not understand the value and feelings behind those gifts. Spend as much time as possible rather than spending money to buy the gift which will become clutter after a few days.

18) Have atleast one meal together

The family which eat together, stay together. Eat atleast one meal together. And make the meal time a happy time, talk with your kids, listen to them. This will also help you to teach them the importance of healthy eating habits.

19) Encourage creativity

Encourage kids to do something new and creative. This will nurture their mental growth by providing new ideas and different ways for problem solving. Creativity will foster concentration, focus, and fine motor skills among kids.

20) Answer their questions

Always embrace kid’s question, no matter how intimidating they are. This will encourage them to share more and they will feel secured. They are the most curious person of the world, answer their question in a most simple way possible, but be honest as you are the source of their information.

21) Let them to do something independently

The habit of doing things for your kids that they are capable of doing is not a good habit. They will remain dependent on you and they will never able to do anything independently. when children are able to do their task of themselves, it promotes their self belief and confidence.

22) Teach them the value of Integrity

You must teach integrity from an early age as we can’t prevent our kids from being exposed to the evils of society. They should have their own knowledge to do the write thing whatever situation comes in front of them. You must follow integrity, then only kids will learn the value of integrity. Discuss daily life experiences with your kids and teach them to differentiate between right and wrong.

23) Show respect to everyone

It is a very simple rule of life that if you give respect, then only you receive respect. We need to earn respect. Teach your child to respect everyone around them irrespective of age, race, color, sex and occupation.

24) End their day on positive note

What ever you had to do, make sure end your kid’s day on a good note. Read them a bed-time story, give a good-night kiss. There should be no negative thought or sad feeling in them before going to sleep.

25) Watch something funny with them

Laughing together is a best way to get connected and to have a strong relationship. It develops a sense of humor among the kids. A child with a good sense of humor is happier and optimistic. And this is the most easy challenge of 30 day mom challenge to be a happy mom. So watch and have fun together to be better and happy mom.

26) Ask them to help you and then praise them

Always ask your kids to help you whenever you think they can help you in little things and praise them a lot. Little kids are very much eager to help everyone around them, they feel they are valued as an adult and this boost their self-esteem.

27) Don’t be strict but disciplined them

It is very important to discipline your kids but don’t go so hard to do so. They will not learn discipline, but it will force them to do because of fear. Try to connect with them before reacting. Praise for their good behavior.

28) Ask your child’s opinion

It is not like that children don’t have thoughts or opinions to express, adults forget to ask them or rarely give them a chance to share their thoughts and opinion. It is fine that they have little idea to give opinions for every matter. But try to involve them in some of your conversations and ask to them, “What they think about that?”. This will boost their self-confidence.

29) Be the person you want your child to be

Parents always want the best of their kids, so you need to be the best example to your kids. Be the person you want your kids to be. As kids don’t learn from what we tell them they learn by watching us what we do. So be the person you want them to follow.

30) Enjoy Motherhood

Enjoy your motherhood, I know it is not so easy but go with the flow. You will learn each day to be a better parent and a better person as well. I will say motherhood is a journey with sweet and sour in it and embrace it with those flavors. Don’t chase perfection, it is not a race to showcase your kids or your cleaned home. During all these challenging moments of motherhood, you will get many chances to cherish your motherhood. I hope these 30 tips of 30 day mom challenge will help you to be more happy and find perfect happy moments with your kids in all those imperfections.