What to do when children make mistakes ?

Have you ever seen a child without doing mistakes? Never right? As it is impossible, children make mistakes because this is a part of the process of their growing and developing. Being a parent you have to go through these situations many times. And sometimes they are indeed pretty tough to deal with. That’s why it is said parenting is a journey without a map. A parent also learn from their own journey of parenthood with child. In my parenting journey I am also learning so many new things with my child. And so sharing my experiences with you all readers so that we can learn from each other’s journey. In this post let’s know how to deal with children when they make mistakes and what we should do?

How parent’s reaction affects children?

Sometimes it’s just go out of our mind that each and every actions of parents are very minutely observed by kids. And they get affected by the reactions in negative or positive ways depending upon how parents deal with the situations. There should be a fine line between being strict and gentle. As nothing in excess work. There are times we have to be little strict but then make them understand the things very gently. CNBC had explained very nicely in one of their articles that we need to combine both parenting styles : gentle as well authoritative to raise a kid.

I know writing or telling something to do is quite easy but implementing them seem to be tough. But then we should think how we want our child to be. Nothing comes easy, if today we try to implement these little tricks of parenting, tomorrow they will grow with a strong base and good traits. It is important to point out children’s mistakes but the approach should be in a right way. As at the end we want our children to rectify their mistakes and learn from it not to be scared from parents.

How to deal when children make mistakes?

I hope we all realize now that shouting or yelling doesn’t work it is just a parent’s way to express their irritation. And this should be avoided as shouting or yelling will make kids feel undesirable. kids start having fear of failure and they avoid learning or trying new skills. So let’s not be a hindrance in blooming of our little kids. Here are the ways that will help you to deal properly when children make mistakes.

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1. Making mistakes are normal

Parents should understand the fact that for a child making mistakes is normal. So accept that and then think about the next step. Make them feel comfortable and tell them everyone does mistakes. It is very much normal and its not the end. It is starting of another chapter. So when you normalize the situation both you and your child will feel better and will try to focus on the process of learning.

2. Focus on the solution

It mostly happens we keep asking children how this happen, how could you do this mistake and this dwelling on the mistakes will just make you and your child exhausted. So rather than focusing on mistakes, focus on the solution to correct the mistake. Teach your child the ways to correct their mistakes and motivate them to try again and again.

3. Emphasize on the process not on the result

Somethings are not in our control for example on the result day of your kid, you can’t change the result on a single day. If your child’s result is not satisfactory, there is no use of screaming on that day. But you can teach him to focus on mistakes and work on them for next time. Sometimes it is difficult to control emotions but then there is solution for this also. Give some time to yourself and your child to calm down. And then explain that mistakes can happen but we need to learn from each mistakes. So always focus on the process of learning and not worrying about the result.

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4. Taking responsibility for your mistakes

As I mentioned earlier mistakes are part of our life and we can’t go away from it. So its better to learn how to deal with when children make mistakes. Admitting one’s own mistake is great virtue of a human being. Children are very innocent, they can easily say that they broke the vase but then if get scold by parents, from next time they will hesitate to admit their mistakes. So whenever your child admit his mistakes, resist yourself from being annoyed or loud but acknowledge your child for admitting the mistake. This will teach them to take the responsibility of their mistakes and will open to take advice to make it better.

5. Perceive opportunities from mistakes

It is very important to teach our child that mistakes are normal but never loose confidence. Accepting mistakes and then analyzing our mistakes are sign of positive mindset. Mistake can be an opportunity to try again and do more better. Encourage your child to discuss the mistakes and what can be done to improve next time. This motivates kids to try new things in a new way with a positive mindset.

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