Understanding Your Child’s Personality

Have you ever wondered how you and your siblings or your kids have different and unique characteristics instead of experiencing the same parenting style? Yes, because each child is different and unique, so they have a different temperament. Being a parent, understanding your child’s personality is very essential. When my daughter was in playschool, I used to drop her in the morning. I have seen there, each kid behave so differently. When kids enter the school, some start the day happily. Few of them want to go inside but with their parents. Some children refuse to enter the school. Every child has their way of expressing their emotions and that shows their unique personality.

At what age is a child’s personality developed?

According to experts, our personality stays the same from early childhood to over the years. You can observe some personality traits peeking out from your preschoolers. Around the age of 3- 5 years, a child starts showing their temperaments. According to Livescience.com, a child’s personality starts emerging from their first grades. And that can be a strong predictor of adult behavior. A post published in Webmd has explained the kind of changes we can expect during preschool years. And what parents can do to nurture them.

What forms child’s personality?

A child’s temperament with people around them, compatibility of their behavior with the environment, and their experiences of life over time form their personality. The way a child is received by the people around him decides his vision towards himself and others. The behavioral style of a baby determines the adult personality. The babies who are shy in nature are most likely are reserved people in their adulthood.

Are parents responsible for their child’s personality?

A child’s personality is related to their behavior, and parents are responsible for their child’s behavior. If a parent doesn’t try hard to manage their child’s behavior, then most likely, a child’s natural trait will be dominant and there may be good or bad. So parents should take a step forward to deal with their child’s behavioral issues and motivate them. In order to instill positivity and good moral values, a parent should understand their child’s personality. And hence teach them according to their personality traits.

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Understanding your child’s personality?

Parents know their children best and understand their child’s personalities from their daily interactions and reactions. Every child has different reactions towards one particular situation. Some children love to talk and meet new people while others are comfortable with a close-knit of people. How your child deals with familiar and unfamiliar situations decide their personalities.

Here are some ways where you can have a better idea to understand your child’s personality:-

Reaction

We need to know the potency of the reaction, our children give for any particular situation. How joyfully they can shout and how shrill full they cry shows the intensity of their reactions. Some children don’t give many reactions or you can say they are less expressive. So these different levels of reactions show kid’s characteristics of “I am least bothered kids” to “I want to bother everyone kids”.

Dealing with high reactive kids:-

• Avoid the situations that make them hyper-active and engage them in a different way.
• Help them in dealing with their feelings.
• Channelize their energy.
• Try to make them feel relax and calm their mind.

Dealing with low-key kids:-

• Give them extra attention to make them feel special.
• Hear them.
• Teach them to express their feelings.
• Do the activities that grab their attention in a positive way.

Activity

Children’s activities, interests tell a lot about their personalities. We can have a fair idea of their personality by observing the activities that kids love or what attracts them. Some children love to listen to a story, while few are interested in telling a story. These traits of kids explain their personality of listening or speaking skills. So there are lots of activities that parents can do to foster a good personality in their children.

Mommy’s Magazine have shared a bunch of simple activities to develop your child’s personality, indeed a great resource to help parents.

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Flexibility

Flexibility is a major trait of an individual. The flexibility of a child not only refers to their physical strength but it defines their strength to adapt to known or unknown situations of their lives. How flexible they are to different challenges of their lives will help parents to understand their child’s personality. Studies have shown that a child with good flexibility skills have high thinking skills as they can easily switch from one mode to other.

Conversation

It is a great way to understand your child’s personality by having a conversation with them as we can know their thoughts from their words. Understanding your child is the keystone in process of parenting so it is very important to spend a good amount of time with your kids. When we start a conversation with our kids they love to share their feelings, how their day went and so many other things. You may require more facial expressions and positive body language to understand young children.

Response to change

Some kids are very much dependent on their routine and slight variations in that make them annoyed. They love to have the same food on their plate, watch the same cartoon, play with the same friends, and the same game. They are not at all interested in any change in their life. On other hand, some kids love to explore new dresses, meet new people, show eagerness to taste new foods e.t.c. Hence in this way, their responses to a change or variations in their life show their traits.

Conclusion

There will be no wonder if you see personality shock, like a stubborn kid, is a very intense adult who is passionate about accomplishing his goals in life. A slow kid is a very patient human being and a perfectionist. So remember, the traits of your kid’s early years that were hard to manage can be their positive qualities later on. And these are the precious rewards you are going to get in your parenthood.

Happy Parenting!!